Telling the Truth: The Therapist’s Dilemma

Book Details
- Publisher : Karnac Books
- Published : February 2025
- Cover : Paperback
- Pages : 188
- Category :
Individual Psychotherapy - Catalogue No : 97837
- ISBN 13 : 9781800132962
- ISBN 10 : 1800132964
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‘Speak the truth here’ is a therapist’s invitation to their client – but is the same true for the therapist? Can and should psychotherapists speak honestly with clients and share the difficult truths they experience in the work? What are the limits and the implications of speaking out? Rob Hill examines therapeutic truthtelling and its impact.
Honesty is important in any relationship but within psychotherapy, honesty takes on a different dimension. The impact of speaking the truth has many repercussions to the therapeutic relationship and may harm the perception of the therapist in the eyes of the client or the relationship in its entirety. Thus, what are the limits of what a therapist can therapeutically share with a client? What are the implications of the therapist choosing to conceal what they congruently experience? Have therapists in the past been more able and more willing to tell the truth with their clients?
Rob Hill engages with these and many more questions, which lead into related territories – those of shame, power, love and hate, narcissism, intersubjectivity and madness – and invites the reader to consider them from a fresh perspective. Presented in essay form interspersed with ‘stories’ which focus on Hill’s inner reactions to working with various clients, the book seeks to evoke curiosity and contemplation rather than definitive answers.
Using language that is personalised and ‘immediate’ rather than academic and abstract, Hill hopes to engage all therapists, including those who rarely read academic and research literature. Telling the Truth is an enjoyable, thought-provoking, and accessible read that raises many important ideas. Rob Hill’s own honesty, insight, and openness in addressing this important topic makes this essential reading for practising therapists.
Reviews and Endorsements
In the post-truth age, where truth is seen as optional, Rob Hill conveys with exquisite vignettes and illustrations from his work, the intricacies and struggles of truthtelling. He doesn’t swerve to avoid discomfort or difficulty, and provides an inspiring read to all those who make “use of self” an integral part of their practice. His well-researched reflections look at shame, narcissism, and power, and how these shape our perception of truth – both in interpersonal work and larger systems. This is an important book for our times, as we sit with the struggles, risks, and vital importance of truthtelling in the therapy room and beyond.
Dr Marie-Anne Chidiac, Co-Founder and Director of Relational Change (relationalchange.org), author of Relational Organisational Gestalt: An Emergent Approach to Organisational Development
With Telling the Truth, Rob Hill offers us a beautifully written and rather unsettling book. Hill’s writing alternates between theoretical discussions regarding the complexities of truthtelling, truth hearing, and truth avoidance. Interspersed with his personal voice through an imagined conversation with a former patient for whom he looks back on his work with considerable regret, self-examination, and personal “un-concealing”. This is a courageous book in which Hill examines the power and risks of truthtelling – “un-concealing” – not only to our patients but also to ourselves.’
William F. Cornell, author of Self-examination in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy, editor of the book series Innovations in Transactional Analysis
This is one of the most stimulating, challenging, and intriguing books I have read in a long time. Rob Hill engages with that age-old question of how, why, and when the therapist might disclose to the client what they are actually thinking and feeling. Rich with theory, reflection, and clinical examples, the book is a real adventure.
Professor Charlotte Sills, Ashridge Hult Business School, Metanoia Institute, UK
Table of Contents
Acknowledgements
About the author
Prologue
1. ‘Hesitating’ - Part I
2. The love of truth
3. ‘Hesitating’ - Part II
4. Telling the truth in everyday life
5. Types of truth and truthtelling
6. ‘Things left unsaid’
7. Truthtelling and power I: In the royal palace
8. Truthtelling and power II: In the therapy room
9. ‘Are you going to shoot me?’
10. Shame, privacy, and awe
11. Narcissism: What truth must not touch
12. Truthtelling, love, and hate
13. ‘Let me know when you trust me’
14. The impact of not speaking: Fatigue and madness
15. Narcissism again: Taking possession of the truth
16. Beyond narcissism: Sharing the truth
17. ‘What’s The Point Of Me?’
18. The craft of truthtelling
19. Styles of truthtelling: Provocation or attunement
20. The last essay
Notes
About the Author(s)
Rob Hill is a relational psychotherapist with a private practice in London, UK, in which he works with individuals, couples and families. He also offers supervision to other psychotherapists. His psychotherapy and supervision training was at Metanoia Institute, London.
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